Wednesday, May 23, 2012

"People are strange when you're a stranger.."

People are strange when you're a stranger..." ~ The Doors.

Last week was a strange week...a very strange week of happenings indeed...

It all started when a man gave me his card early Monday morning.  I was headed out for my jog and he'd just finished an evening of partying.  He was stumbling all over and as I walked by, he gave me his card...well, he stuffed his card between my arm and my body because I was pretending not to notice him.  Usually I don't put much thought into these actions as I tend to get many business cards from men just passing me by, sober or drunk.  I just figured Koreans loved giving out their business cards.  But something struck me as strange on Monday morning, so I pondered his actions throughout the day. 

Two mornings later, I'm up bright and early for a jog, and I decide I would pay close attention to the people walking around my 'hood.  I notice three women, probably in their 40s, coming out of one of the buildings near my apartment, very drunk, smoking and dressed very...slatternly and revealing by Korean standards.  I have seldom seen women openly drunk and smoking in the streets...usually it's just business men making complete fools of themselves.  They giggled as I passed and say 'hello' as they were locking up one of the storefronts.  Looking at the store, I noticed there are no windows on the ground level, just wood paneling and a flashing sign in the shape of a heart hanging on the door.  The second and third floors have windows, but they are covered with paper.  And still I wonder... 

 

Up early again the next morning, I notice there are quite a few of these storefronts on my street.  This time as I stroll by, I notice one of the buildings is open and I see an elderly lady cleaning.  I peer into the doorway, but can't really see anything as the space is made up of smaller rooms with doors.  The walls of these smaller rooms did not go up to the ceiling and I could hear people whispering.  With this, I hurried on ahead, trying to piece together what I've seen.  As my mind is racing, I'm also noticing I'm passing by more storefronts that look identical to the ones in question.  Then it occurs to me and I stop abruptly.  At that exact moment, I also hear someone crying out in ecstasy.  I stood in disbelief.  I've walked this route hundreds of times and never once did I notice the 34 almost identical looking storefronts on my street.  

I'm living in a red light district!  I knew these places existed here, but I had no idea I was living right amongst it all lol.

I was curious as to what reaction I would get from my coteachers, so I told them about my discovery and explained the whole story.  Their reaction?  They laughed...and laughed...and laughed!!  Here is Lanny's explanation as to why I am given business cards...

"Oh, Cony...this is not so strangey.  These men think you are very beautiful and they give you this cards because they think you are a Russian.... (long pause while she thinks of the English word).....
 ......ahhhhhh... prostitute!"  


Enjoy!!!













Tuesday, May 1, 2012

"Kind words can be short and easy to speak..."

"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless". ~Mother Teresa

I haven't worked with my new co-teacher, Lanny, for very long.  It's only been two months, but already I look up to her as my teaching guru.  My attitiude and teaching style has changed dramatically since we've been working together and this has been a very positive change.

The last few weeks, we've been playing music together. She plays the flute and I'm learning guitar, and we decided that we would learn to play 'Hey Jude' and have weekly afternoon jam sessions after classes.  I don't know if you can actually call a flute/guitar duo a 'jam session', but I'm gonna roll with it anyhow lol.

Today's session will forever be etched in my heart. The following conversation took place as Lanny had these kind words to say to me...


Cony...Nicky told me that you will for sure be going back to your country after your contract.  I have some things on my mind that I want to try and say. 

This makes for a sad story to me because I would like to think of you as my nice colleague and my good teacher.  I also think we are friends now and I am sad that you will leave.  We only have a few more months to work together and this is not enough time.  We work really good together and my English is much better since I met you.  You have been very patient with me even though my English is not very good. 

I think you will be a very good teacher with strong qualities.  You are a very brave and strong woman to travel to Korea all by yourself and have no family with you.  I think you are the strongest woman I have met in this life.  I think this about you and I just wanted to let you know.  This is what my mind says. Do you understand?


Thank, Lanny :)

One of the hardest things about leaving Korea, will be saying 'goodbye' to the friends I've made.